Why I hate Monica (and the writers)-Part 5

Here's a less sarcastic version of why I don't want Monica with Chandler.

There's a reason why my "I hate Monica" rant starts in season 6, not season 5. At first I liked Monica and Chandler because they were sweet, and the secrecy plot was funny; TOW Everybody Finds Out episode is particularly strong, and even though Monica does have moments of being annoying and competitive this season, she still supports Chandler over issues like his work laugh, cares about his feelings, and apologizes to Chandler about incidents like cutting off his toe. In season 6, though, I began to see a change. She got more annoying more of the time, was quite inflexible and unfair over the game room/guest room issue, took Chandler for granted, and didn't apologize as much even when she was clearly wrong in an argument. Chandler also became less funny, less assertive, and less macho (he hardly ever did sports and crazy games like he used to with Joey and Ross). He was more of a straight man to Monica's freaky behavior, and he was constantly reassuring her sweetly if she overreacted about something. It was a disturbing trend, as if the writers were going to do as much damage to their characters as they had done to Ross with his Mental Geller antics. When I saw the proposal, though, I told myself that Monica would must truly love him more than Richard; she would be nicer and sweeter again next season, he would be more like his old sarcastic self, and they would work out what issues they had before the wedding. Everyone would be happy. (I still would have preferred Joey/Chandler, but as long as Chandler was happy with her, I could stand to see Joey end up with someone else like Phoebe, Kate, etc.)

But then season 7 came along and ruined Monica/Chandler for me. She got even more annoying, more shrill and bossy, and less sincere and loving. So I retroactively decided that they never should have been together, or that at most they should've had the sexual fling that the writers originally intended for them. I know other fans who aren't even Joey/Chandler shippers that agree that Monica became a harpy and a shrew in season 7. Nothing Monica has done in seasons 8, 9, and 10 has won me back. The rare moments when she is supposed to be sweet and touching again, like over the infertility issue, are too few and too poisoned by my memories of her mistreating Chandler and manipulating him to get her way. Sometimes I want to cut that wedding ring off her hand and make her eat it and choke on it. I can still root for Chandler in other couples, like in the Chandler/Rachel fics or the Chandler/Janice/Joey plot I have for "Instead of Yemen", but now I don't want Chandler with Monica under any circumstances. She's ruined it for me, and he's become a stereotypical hen-pecked husband out of some inferior sitcom. I don't understand how the writers can seriously think that Chandler with Monica is supposed to be a happy ending to the series. He belongs with Joey, or someone else who can truly love him and make him remember what he used to be like.